The questions people ask

No. I trained as a therapist, but I work as a coach, and the difference is real: I don’t diagnose or treat mental health conditions, and this isn’t a replacement for seeing a licensed therapist. What I do is focused, practical work on the fight that keeps coming back between you, and the harsh conclusions underneath it. If what you need is therapy, I’ll tell you in the first conversation and help you find it. The full comparison is on coaching vs therapy.

Sessions are $200. The full set of twelve is $2,400, which you can pay all at once or split into three payments of $800. The shorter decision work is five sessions for $1,100. The first fifteen-minute conversation is free. No hidden tiers, no upsells: how it works spells out every rule in plain numbers.

Because coaching isn’t health care, and I’d rather be honest about that than pretend to be something I’m not. The upside is privacy: no diagnosis gets attached to either of you, nothing goes into a medical record, and no insurance company learns anything about your relationship. If you want treatment your insurance covers, you should see a licensed couples therapist in your state, and I mean that without a hint of sarcasm.

Skeptical is workable, the free call exists partly so a skeptic can grill me before any money changes hands. Refusing changes the format, not the possibility: working on your own is always an option, because you’re half of the pattern and it needs both of you to keep going. And if the real question is whether to stay at all, start with the stay-or-go work, on your own if you need to.

The tools you learned work on how you talk to each other. This works on the level below that: the thing each of you can’t accept in yourselves and keeps blaming the other for. Tools used inside a running blame just become nicer-sounding weapons, which is why the same fight survived them. We drop the harsh judgment first, and then your tools finally work. It’s explained on the how it works page, and in full in the long version.

The main work is twelve sessions over about three months, and it’s designed to end, this isn’t weekly counseling forever. Some couples finish in the twelve; some keep going with the occasional single session; the decision work is five. If at any point I think you need less than you’re paying for, I’ll say so, and the refund applies.

Yes, yes, and yes. This is about two people and the harsh conclusions they’ve reached about each other, and it doesn’t care about the shape of the relationship. What matters is that the people in it are adults who want the pattern to change.

We start getting the picture. I ask each of you to tell the story your way, and I listen for what’s underneath: the trait each of you is hardest on in yourself, the walls you’ve built, and how that turned into the fight you keep having. Most couples leave the first session with the slightly strange experience of hearing their fight described accurately for the first time. I also start sorting things right away: if what’s on the table is harm rather than a difference, or something clinical rather than relationship stuff, I say so early.

Yes, in practice: I don’t record sessions, I keep minimal encrypted notes, and I never share or market with anything you say. One honest difference from therapy: coaching doesn’t carry the legal confidentiality protection that therapy does, so privacy here is a matter of contract and ethics, not law. And one honest limit: if I believe someone is in real danger, I’ll act like a human being first. The details are on the privacy page.

Then this is the wrong tool, and getting help fast matters more than finding the right fit. In the US, call or text 988 (the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline) for any mental health emergency. For domestic violence, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. If anyone is in immediate danger, call 911. This practice doesn’t provide crisis help, and nothing here should slow you down from reaching people who do.