Couples coaching, online
What couples coaching costs, and why I quote it in a call.
You want a number, and I’m going to make you sit through one page first. Not to hide the fee: I quote it plainly, in real figures, in the free twenty-minute consultation, before you commit to anything. This page explains what shapes that number, what you’re actually buying, and why I stopped posting prices on the site.
What you’re actually paying for
Sessions are 60 minutes, on video. Most couples do a set of twelve across about three months; the shorter stay-or-go decision work is five sessions. The fee covers more than the hour: I prepare before each session, write a real assessment note at the halfway point, and hold a small enough practice that I remember what your Tuesday fight was about. The full structure is on how it works, and the work itself is described under online couples coaching.
Why the fee isn’t posted here
Because a number on a page answers the wrong question. Cheap coaching from someone winging it is expensive, and the honest comparison for this work isn’t another coach’s rate card anyway. It’s the cost of another year of the same fight: the counseling you already paid for, the vacations spent recovering from the drive there, and the quiet math one of you has started doing about lawyers. In the free call you get the exact figure, the exact session count, and the total, so you can decide with everything on the table.
Insurance, on purpose, no
I don’t take insurance, and it’s a feature. Insurance requires a diagnosis, and a diagnosis means one of you carries a mental health label in a medical record for the crime of being married and stuck. Coaching stays outside that system. The whole privacy case, with its real trade-offs stated plainly, is written out in the privacy case for paying out of pocket. You pay directly, nothing about your relationship enters any file, and no reviewer ever decides whether your marriage has had enough sessions.
How to think about whether it’s worth it
Ask what the fight has already cost you, honestly: in evenings, in sex, in what your kids overhear, in the version of yourself you like least. Then ask what you’ve spent on things that didn’t touch it. If the answer to the first question is “a lot” and the second is “also a lot,” the question isn’t really the fee. It’s whether this particular work reaches the layer the other spending didn’t. That’s exactly what the free call is for deciding.
The usual questions
Common questions about cost and fees
Why won’t you just list the price?
Because the number only means something next to the plan: how many sessions, what happens in them, and what done looks like. I quote the exact fee and the full total in the free consultation, before you commit to anything. You’ll never discover a cost after you’ve started.
Do you take insurance or HSA cards?
No insurance, by design, so your relationship never enters a medical record. Coaching isn’t a clinical service, which also means it isn’t the kind of expense insurance covers. Whether a given HSA or FSA allows it is between you and your plan’s rules; most treat coaching as ineligible.
Are there hidden extras, materials, or booking fees?
No. The fee I quote in the call is the whole thing: sessions, the written midpoint note, and email contact between sessions within reason. If something ever cost extra, you’d hear it from me before it existed.
Is coaching cheaper than couples therapy?
Sometimes, and it’s the wrong basis for the choice. If your situation needs therapy, cheaper coaching is a bad trade at any price, and I’ll tell you so in the first call. Pick the right tool first. Compare fees second.
What if we start and it isn’t working?
We talk about it out loud, early. The halfway note exists partly for this: a written, honest read on whether the work is moving. The refund and cancellation rules are laid out plainly on the how-it-works page, so nothing about stopping is awkward or hidden.