The first step

Write to me.

Three short steps. I read every note myself and write back within two business days. Nothing you write here goes anywhere else.

Step 1 of 3

What's happening? We keep having the same fight We're recovering from an affair or a broken trust We're deciding whether to stay together One of us is "the difficult one" The desire is gone We've done therapy and the problem survived it Something else

Step 2 of 3 What would you like to be different a year from now? Anything I should know about how you got here? (optional)

This is read by me, not a team, not software.

Step 3 of 3 Your first name (or both of yours) Email

Your note is stored securely and never shared. Deleting it is one email away. No phone number, no calls.

If you are in crisis right now, don't wait on an email: in the US, call or text 988 (Suicide and Crisis Lifeline). For domestic violence, call 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788. In immediate danger, call 911.

It's on its way.