Most couples don't need more advice. They need a clearer view.

I work online with couples worldwide. I hold a master's in counseling from La Salle University and a master's in sociology from UC Berkeley, with a specialization in social psychology and culture. Before focusing on coaching, I worked across the corporate, non-profit, and academic sectors.

I also have close to twenty years of experience as a client in my own personal work, and that has shaped what I do as much as any training. I know what it's like to sit in the other chair, to wonder if the person across from you actually gets what you're trying to say, and to have the experience of something clicking that changes how you see yourself.

How I Work

The things that keep couples stuck tend to feel invisible from the inside, especially the parts that seem obvious. My job is to help you and your partner see what you're each doing automatically, so you can stop doing it on autopilot.

In practice: we look at the patterns that keep repeating, where they came from, and how they play out in real time between the two of you.

What We Pay Attention To

We pay attention to meaning, not just behavior. Two people can do the same thing for completely different reasons. That difference matters, because it's the reason that repeats. We also pay attention to relational dynamics: the ways each of you adapts, appeases, controls, withdraws, over-functions, tests, performs. These moves are usually smart attempts to manage something painful. But they also have consequences that neither of you can see from the inside.

What Sessions Feel Like

Sessions are conversational and often surprisingly practical. There's no intake form, no worksheet, no homework. The work happens in the room.

I listen to what you're both saying, but I'm also tracking how you're saying it: what you keep going back to without meaning to, where the energy shifts, what gets avoided. When I notice something, I say it. Most couples notice a shift within the first few sessions. Not because I've handed them a technique, but because the quality of attention is different from anything they're used to. You start seeing things you couldn't see before. And once you can see them, the old patterns lose a lot of their power.

Who This Works Well For

Couples who sense that what's keeping them stuck isn't a lack of willpower or the right technique. It's something they can't quite see yet. If you want a space to understand why you keep ending up in the same place, you'll probably find this work a relief.

Why Online

I work exclusively online because it lets me work with the people who are the best fit for what I do, wherever they happen to live. It also means continuity. If you move, you keep your coach. No starting over.

What I Don't Do

I don't diagnose, prescribe, or provide clinical treatment. I'm not a substitute for psychiatric care, medication management, or crisis intervention. What I do well is help couples understand themselves and each other in ways that make their problems solvable.

Services

I offer coaching sessions for couples at three lengths: 50 minutes ($200), 60 minutes ($250), and 75 minutes ($300). All sessions are conducted via secure video call with flexible scheduling across time zones. Before your first session, we have a brief 15-minute call to see if this feels like the right fit.

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